Dumped by a lover ?

Everyone is hurt - whether they show it or not. In many ways - big or small - we are all offended one way or another every day of our lives. The offense could come from being ignored at meetings, ignored by a husband watching television or by being rejected by the one you love. If one keeps track of the daily triggers that ruin ones mood in a single day-we would find that rejection is the core of all major insults .
The reason rejection hurts so much is because it impacts our self-esteem. Self-esteem partly reflects on who we are and how we feel about ourselves. In addition self-esteem also is a barometer of our standing with others .
Can we stop people from rejecting us in all forms of relationships; be it with a potential mate, coworkers, extended family, neighbors or people we meet in passing only a few times in our life? The answer to that is no. We cannot force everyone to accept us and hence make us feel good about ourselves. However, what we have to do is to change the way we react to the rejection ; if dumped by a special loved one – think of the rejection as a chance to allow you to reinvent yourself. Re-assess the situation, reevaluate the person you were going to be romantically committed to, was it a healthy relationship? Were you benefiting from this relationship? Were you really appreciated? To conclude, another aspect of dealing with rejection especially in romantic relationships has to do with the spiritual side, in having faith, that God has in store for you what is best. And trusting that there are other sides to the person or the relationship- which would have been bad for you, yet you knew nothing about it. In short, the major factors determining how you accept rejection peacefully with little harm done – is having faith in God’s actions and also having high self-esteem and loving yourself.